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The pressures of working in a conflict zone provided some distraction, but when she returned home in 2012, she felt just as fraught as ever. вЂњI felt so fed up and low about dealing with this that I thought it literally wouldnвЂ™t matter if I died,вЂќ she said. She considered accepting deployment to Afghanistan a suicide bid. The sheer magnitude of difficulties she imagined facing by coming out had a severe effect on her mental health. вЂњAnd then I would hear people in my life mock her and be like, вЂOh, itвЂ™s a bloke, itвЂ™s a bloke.вЂ™ вЂ¦ I think experiences like that at the time just increased my real desire to try to be a guy the best I could.вЂќДЄmy thought joining the army at 19 would вЂњmake a man of herвЂќ - instead, it added to her feelings of distress and confusion. вЂњAll the storylines about this character were basically her getting shat on and being abused by people,вЂќ she said.

That Cropper had not been assigned female at birth was something of a national sensation in the early 2000s - but not a positive one.

She told me of an early memory watching the soap opera Coronation Street with her parents, which featured a trans character called Hayley Cropper. Her voice has a Yorkshire lilt, and she readily leans into her working-class identity. She described understanding that she was transgender as a child in unvarnished terms: вЂњHow do you know youвЂ™re left-handed? You just do, donвЂ™t you?вЂќ She is not shy but I sensed an introvert, often subconsciously smoothing her long, red hair down in front of her face.

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We connected on Zoom, the hot sun streaming through the windows of my Bangkok apartment, while in England, Amy sat at a desk in a dimly lit bedroom. I first met Amy at the end of June 2021, 22 days before her surgery. Coming from the U.S., the U.K., Norway, Bulgaria, Israel, Canada, and Australia, and facing different personal and social circumstances, they were united in their conviction that their home countries had not presented them with good options and that they had to take matters into their own hands. Over a period of six months, I spoke to a group of trans women* to better understand why many would rather fly halfway across the world than receive GCS at home. But what is driving this thriving industry in the country goes well beyond the comparatively low cost of care. Since the first operation in 1975, Thailand has gained a reputation as the global expert in this niche field: Foreigners made up 90% of GCS patients between 20. through the NHS, two opted for surgery in the U.S., and another did not have GCS.ДЄmy is not alone. Among this group, one person had surgery in the U.K. * Osten-Tan spoke to 15 trans women for this story. When an immigration officer finally stamps her passport, she feels a cold wave of relief. Like an object on a conveyor belt, she has already passed through four different airport checkpoints - each time she scrutinizes the memory of her own documentation for one typo, one incorrectly filled form. She is here to receive gender confirmation surgery (GCS), a procedure she has been dreaming about since childhood and for which she has been planning for six long years. Being denied entry would create yet another stumbling block, another frustrating barrier, to what has already felt like a never-ending process. But AmyвЂ™s anxiety is not the result of an 18-hour flight in the middle of a pandemic to a country - and a part of the world - she has never visited before. It is July 3, 2021, and there are reports of 6,230 new cases of COVID-19 in Thailand today. The airport is almost completely empty: echoey, eerie. She is presented with a small number tag and guided toward neatly spaced plastic seats where she waits for her documents to be inspected. The long glass corridors, rows of fluorescent lights reflecting off plastic face shields, and sound of crinkling white protective suits make her feel like sheвЂ™s entered a science fiction film. Go behind the scenes of this story in our Q&A with Mailee Osten-Tan.ДЄs Amy (not her real name) walks toward the immigration hall in BangkokвЂ™s Suvarnabhumi Airport, she is visibly nervous. Mailee Osten-Tan | Longreads | June 2022 | 7,449 words (27 minutes)Д¬W: This story mentions depression, suicide, and isolation, and discusses different types of gender confirmation surgery and recovery procedures in graphic detail.

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